Everyone wants to have a healthy relationship with that perfect partner. When you have one, you’ll want to maintain it, but one of the mistakes people tend to make is that they forget about the “me” time in their relationship. Getting a healthy dose of me time does not hurt, and from my experience, leads to other self discovery.
It’s not healthy to always be around your partner. Just a couple of weeks ago I attended a conference in San Diego that allowed me some time with great friends, while even making a few new ones. You need to spend some “me” time so that you have more to give your partner. This is a common problem with couples – whether they’re still in that newlywed stage of romance or have been together for decades.
Some people spend so much time with their partner that they feel lost and alone when they’re left alone for any period of time. Here are some ways you can nurture yourself so that you’re able to give the best to your partner when it is time to be a couple:
- Spend an evening reading that book you’ve been waiting to get your hands on. Quiet time at home enjoying a good book without any interruptions can energize you when you meet up with your partner again.
- Watch a movie that you’ve wanted to see, but your partner wasn’t interested in seeing (like a good chick flick). Don’t deny yourself something you want to do just because your partner doesn’t want to do it.
- Visit your family. Spending time with your family can help you keep a relationship strong. We often alienate our own family in favor of a new love interest.
- Go out with your friends. Spending time with your friends allows you to let loose and be yourself without worrying how you’re coming across to the other person. If your partner exhibits jealousy to an extreme level, then you may want to reconsider whether it’s a healthy bond.
- Play sports or do your favorite hobby. If you’re a golfer and your partner isn’t, there’s no reason you shouldn’t take a day and hit the links. Take in a friendly game with someone or just play a round by yourself. If you like to sew, spend a day doing that. Just because your partner finds it boring, doesn’t mean you can’t do it.
- Enjoy a bubble bath or whirlpool. Pamper yourself with a bubble bath, hot tub, whirlpool or massage. Make yourself feel good and get energized for the next time you meet up with your partner.
- Go shopping. You can go shopping and pick up something for yourself. If you choose, you can find something for your partner. Eat out if you want to and splurge on that “Great Wall of Chocolate” you’re always too embarrassed to have your lover see you eating. Spend a day and window shop or go antiquing.
A healthy relationship requires “me” as much as “we” time. Be sure to plan a healthy dose of both in your relationship. And when your partner begins to find his own me time, allow him the freedom to reconnect to his own soul, too.
I’d love to hear from you. Share with me your experiences below!