Learning how to say NO is probably one of the toughest things for people to do. Saying no to other people is hard, especially from someone who is a people-pleaser. I genuinely like to help others and I don’t ever want to offend someone by saying no.
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I’ve learned to say no from time to time. I always have to remind myself that if I say yes, I will end up taking on too much. This relates to not only my business life, but also just helping out friends and doing home tasks too. I’m the kind of person that will take on so much that I always feel like I’m behind. I always feel like I don’t get enough sleep or time for myself.
Learning How to Say No
But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that saying no is about respecting and valuing my time and my well-being. And saying NO doesn’t mean I’ll offend someone; others are understanding and are often in the same boat.
Just ask yourself these 3 questions in helping you how to say NO:
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How much work is already on my plate?
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How will it affect my time if I say yes?
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Will it interfere with my top priorities getting done?
Often, people tend to say yes right away without realizing the consequences later. It’s important to know what you’re getting yourself into.
For those of us who don’t like conflict, who like to help others, and would rather always say ‘Sure I can do that’, we have to
realize that the barrier to saying no is really all in our own heads.
You’d be surprised how many people will reply to you with a ‘no problem.
I no longer have that problem, I try not to use the phrase “I’m sorry” either! Thanks for sharing.
This is such a problem for so many. Guilt and fear hold us back from speaking our own needs. I love that you share strategies for others to use in order to protect their own time and sanity. Thank you!